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South Bay Queer & Asian

The San Francisco South Bay's Premiere Gay, Lesbian, Transgender & Bisexual Asian Support & Social Organization

Our Vision

To provide each other with an extended family that will support and embrace our quest for self-discovery, love, and social acceptance.

Our Mission

To provide a fun and safe environment for queer Asians and Pacific Islanders in the South Bay to come out and be comfortable with their sexual identity and ethnicity, as well as be vital and visible to the greater community.

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Upcoming Rap Sessions

Rap Session Info

Race and dating

NOV08 2016
  • Time: 7PM-8:30PM
  • Location: Billy DeFrank Center, 938 The Alameda, San Jose
  • Facilitator: Cliff H.

Incidentally I saw a Facebook posting shared by a friend. Just out of curiosity I visited the web site referenced by this post. It's a blog site named "angryhomosexual.com". I didn't know about this web site before. The "About" statement of this web site says "I’m a homosexual. And I’m angry. I’m so sick of homosexual life that I had to write this blog to vent my anger".

After I read a couple of blogs the blogger seems to be a gay Asian man (well, I could be wrong). And he has mostly written on the subject of race and dating. Two of the most popular blogs are as follows:
The Asian vs White Grindr experiment: Why it's great to be White!
The Jack'd Racism Study: Asians are as Racist as Whites.

At my last rap session on dating participants also touched on the "race" factor. And I was surprised to read about the sentiment expressed by the author of the blogs on this web site. I think we can further explore this controversial subject. I will highlight some of the articles at the meeting. The expectation is for us to put things in a clear light. We can either validate or refute different viewpoints and help us navigate better in the dating pool.

(After our rap session, we'll head out to a local dive for dinner together as a group.)

Due to the sensitive topics and subjects we discuss at our rap sessions which often times are only applicable to Queer Asian/Pacific Islanders (APIs), we appreciate the understanding of our non-API friends and allies to join us at all other sbQA events. SBQA raps are a safe and empowering space for Queer APIs

Upcoming Events

[sbQA] sbQA Annual Thanksgiving Dinner Potluck

WHEN: Saturday, Nov 19th, 2016. 6 - 9 PM

WHERE: DeFrank Center Grand Ballroom. 938 The Alameda, San Jose, CA 95126. http://tinyurl.com/yj65vqs

RSVP: RSVP Link

COST: FREE - Just bring your dish that can feed 4 or more

Capacity: 100

Come join our sbQA family members and friends as we gather to celebrate the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday. sbQA Thanksgiving potluck is one of our largest and most festive parties of the year. Enjoy good food and drinks, see old friends, and make new ones.

Please check-in by 6:00 pm. Dinner commences at 6:45pm. Please RSVP with the link above.

We need volunteers this year to bring two cooked turkeys. If you can bake one, please kindly let us know in advance. We’ll greatly appreciate it and we will also reimburse you. Email or call Robert Austria (415-203-4454).

Parking lot may accommodate up to 30 cars. Side streets across from the Center have parking with little restriction. Residential streets on the Center's side require parking permits (= no parking). There is a 2-hour limit for parking along The Alameda. Rideshare is strongly encouraged.

Looking forward to seeing you all!

[sbQA] sbQA Holiday Dinner

WHEN: December 10, 2016 @ 5:30 PM – 9:30 PM

WHERE: First United Methodist Church at 24th North 5th Street San Jose (cross street: Santa Clara St). Downtown San Jose (directly across the San Jose City Hall)

RSVP: RSVP Link

It’s been a long while since we have had a Winter Holiday gathering. So, it is with great pride and excitement that we announce this year’s holiday dinner potluck and gift exchange at a very nice, modern and convenient location. Thanks go to Pastors Shinya Goto and John Rodgers of First United Methodist Church for extending their generosity and opening their church hall to us. And just to put you at ease, this is a church that has raised the rainbow flag to express their openness to our community.

We have set a limit of 100 people for this event. So please RSVP as soon as possible.

We will have a festive time together with the “holiday theme” dishes around the world. So be creative and add a little more adventure in your choice of holiday dish you would like to bring. We’d love to share in your own family holiday traditions. Alcohol consumption is allowed so you may bring your own. After dinner, we will have a gift exchange for those who brought a gift (valued at $20 or more) to participate. No white elephant (recycled, gag) gifts, please.

In addition, sbQA has pledged to help the community by donating an unwrapped gift to under privileged kids and/or family members that have signed up with First United Methodist Church. So, please bring an unwrapped gift (valued at $20 or more) and drop it under the Christmas tree at this party. Name/Gender/Age Tags of kids/family members will be made available at the Thanksgiving holiday party on Nov 19 or contact Robert A for more details.

If you would like to share some talent with an entertainment number, please let Robert A. know via email, text or messenger so we can work out some logistics to make it happen.

Finally, our event will not be successful without great volunteers. Please sign up to volunteer at this event when you RSVP.

See you there!

Being gay, lesbian, transgender or bisexual can be a challenging experience for many of us. It becomes even more complicated when you involve mom and dad, family and being Asian. Many questions arise. Who should I date? How do I play it safe when it comes to sex? Where have all the cowboys gone? How do I meet Mr./Ms. Right? How do I tell my family about me? Where do I meet men or women?

So let's talk! At our rap sessions, we meet in a group to talk about various different topics. SBQA presents a variety of interesting topics, including "coming out," relationships, discrimination, and safe-sex. Members can also bring up personal issues to the group and receive feedback and advice. And we do it in a safe, relaxing, friendly environment. Everything is kept confidential, so don't worry!

Our rap sessions are open to all Asian and Pacific Islander gay, lesbian, transgender, bisexual or questioning men and women. We meet every 2nd and 4th Tuesday of the month from 7:00 pm to 8:30 pm at the Billy DeFrank Center in San Jose, CA. Join us for dinner afterwards at a nearby restaurant.