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South Bay Queer & Asian

The San Francisco South Bay's Premiere Gay, Lesbian, Transgender & Bisexual Asian Support & Social Organization

Our Vision

To provide each other with an extended family that will support and embrace our quest for self-discovery, love, and social acceptance.

Our Mission

To provide a fun and safe environment for queer Asians and Pacific Islanders in the South Bay to come out and be comfortable with their sexual identity and ethnicity, as well as be vital and visible to the greater community.

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Upcoming Rap Sessions

Rap Session Info

Saying No With Compassion

NOV10 2015
  • Time: 7PM-8:30PM
  • Location: Billy DeFrank Center, 938 The Alameda, San Jose
  • Facilitator: Shishir T.

As a follow up to our last session, lets talk about how to say No in a way that is unambiguous and straightforward but also in a manner that is kind and respectful.

Having grown up in Asian families, we often have a very hard time saying No. This leads to unnecessary confusion, anxiety and frustration.

So lets talk more about how to be clear and assertive while also being considerate and sensitive towards the other person.

Come and share your thoughts and feelings.

(After our rap session, we'll head out to a local dive for dinner together as a group.)

Due to the sensitive topics and subjects we discuss at our rap sessions which often times are only applicable to Queer Asian/Pacific Islanders (APIs), we appreciate the understanding of our non-API friends and allies to join us at all other sbQA events. SBQA raps are a safe and empowering space for Queer APIs

Upcoming Events

[sbQA] Annual Thanksgiving potluck @ Billy De Frank Center

WHEN: Saturday, November 21, 2015

TIME: 6 pm to 10 pm

WHERE: Billy De Frank Community Center Ballroom,



COST: FREE - Just bring your dish that can feed 6 or more and be ready for a good time!

Come to meet your sbQA family members and friends; share your stories and experiences. sbQA Thanksgiving potluck is one of our largest and most festive parties of the year. Join us as we celebrate our 23rd year and give thanks. Come enjoy good food and drinks, see old friends, and make new ones.

We need two turkeys. If you can bake one, please kindly let us know. Thank you.

Please check-in by 6:30 pm. Dinner commences at 6:45pm. Please sign up ASAP to reserve your seat!

Parking lot may accommodate up to 30 cars. Side streets across from the Center have parking with little restriction. Residential streets on the Center's side require parking permits (= no parking). Two hour limitation for parking along The Alameda. Rideshare is strongly encouraged.

Looking forward to seeing you all!

Being gay, lesbian, transgender or bisexual can be a challenging experience for many of us. It becomes even more complicated when you involve mom and dad, family and being Asian. Many questions arise. Who should I date? How do I play it safe when it comes to sex? Where have all the cowboys gone? How do I meet Mr./Ms. Right? How do I tell my family about me? Where do I meet men or women?

So let's talk! At our rap sessions, we meet in a group to talk about various different topics. SBQA presents a variety of interesting topics, including "coming out," relationships, discrimination, and safe-sex. Members can also bring up personal issues to the group and receive feedback and advice. And we do it in a safe, relaxing, friendly environment. Everything is kept confidential, so don't worry!

Our rap sessions are open to all Asian and Pacific Islander gay, lesbian, transgender, bisexual or questioning men and women. We meet every 2nd and 4th Tuesday of the month from 7:00 pm to 8:30 pm at the Billy DeFrank Center in San Jose, CA. Join us for dinner afterwards at a nearby restaurant.